Feeling lost, no direction, getting nowhere, lack of motivation and don’t know what to do?
Don’t worry, commit to develop yourself and you will find the ‘light’ in your life.
I’m always passionate about personal development. Every one of us wanted to live a successful life. We all want something better, something bigger and live a charged and motivated life.
Regardless of whether you are looking for ways to improve yourself, to rediscover your passion or to motivate yourself, this article is a must-read for you.
Below are the 21 personal development tips that will change your life, if you act upon them…
1. Know Yourself
This is one of the most life-changing tips that can help you in every area of your life. Here’s a powerful quote for you…
“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.” – Lao Tzu
You have to know yourself and understand yourself in order to move yourself to the next level.
When you know what you love to do, you can use your passion to create amazing piece of work. When you know your personality, you can then choose the right career and mix with the right group of people.
Learn what are your strengths, your weakness, what do you love to do, where is your passion; what do you hate to do, learn your moods, your reactions, understand how the environment can affect you, etc.
Always commit to master yourself.
2. Create Your Vision
You will go through life aimlessly if you don’t know what you want. This is what happen to most people, no wonder the majority are ordinary and getting stuck in life.
If you want to be different and to live a better life, you must know your vision.
You have to at least have a picture of what you want to accomplish in the future. It is alright if your vision is blurry. If you can make your vision as clear and vivid, do it.
Your vision will serve as the ultimate destination in life. It will become your driving force and guide you to take the right path to it.
So create a vision for yourself now. Know what you want to achieve in the future and try to make it as vivid as possible.
3. Be Decisive
Are you someone who is decisive? Successful people are very decisive in what they do. They always seem to be able to make the right decision and have all the confidence that they need.
Being decisive is a skill and you can develop it.
Now, look at yourself. Do you always wondering what to eat, which shirt to wear or what to do? How do you come to the final decision of what to eat or what to wear?
You have to understand your decision making process. Are you someone who can decide and hold on to your decision? Or are you someone who always pushes away the responsibility to make decision and let someone else do it?
I’ve seen people who always ask around what to eat all the time. They just can’t come up with a decision and don’t know what they want.
Don’t be one of them. Know what you want and decide to go for it.
If you love to eat burger for dinner later, just decide to go for it and don’t ask around what other people’s want.
Develop your decision making skill from small things in your life such as what to do, what to wear and what to eat. Eventually you will build better skill and make better decision.
4. Know Your Goals
Do you have a short-term goal? If you don’t, you need to set it right away.
You see, you need to have a vision of your future to guide you through your life, but what really makes your vision come true is your goal.
It is what you do that will determine your future. Having a dream is good; having a solid goal that you can act on is more powerful.
For your own sake, set a short-term goal that you can achieve within 1 to 2 months and seriously work on it to accomplish it.
Far too often I have seen people going nowhere because the goal that they set is way too far that they fail to see any positive results and impact on their life.
Your motivation will not last. You need to set something that is close enough for you to work on and get the small victories so that you will gain the momentum and keep moving forward.
This is why you need to break down your goals into actionable steps.
So set your 1 to 2 months goals. Seriously commit to them and do all you can and see how they can affect your life.
Learn to set goals here: Goal Setting Strategies – How To Set Goals Step By Step
5. Invest in Yourself
This is my favourite tips. It does not matter whether you are a degree holder or a college dropout. The universe is fair and it rewards people who invest in themselves and constantly improve themselves.
How many books have you read after step out of your school or college? And I’m referring to personal development books.
Most people never pick up a book after their college. This is why they are feeling stuck and wandering through life aimlessly.
You need to constantly improve yourself. Read at least 2 books a month. Attend seminars or workshop when possible. Or better yet, get a coach or mentor.
All the great leaders are readers. They read a lot and they are always looking forward to learn something at every moment.
You can never grow if you stop learning. And if you don’t learn, you will be doing things the same way. When you always do what you do, you will always get back the same old result.
Therefore, make it a decision from now on to invest in yourself. Start by reading at least 2 books in a month.
6. Build Your Confidence
The more you improve yourself, the more confident you will become. And the easiest way to boost your confidence level is through physical items.
You don’t have to buy a sports car or move to a big castle, you can start small by dressing professionally and groom properly.
Did you ever notice that there are certain clothes that you love to wear and when you wear them you feel like you are more good-looking and smart (for guys) or more gorgeous (for ladies)?
And the more confidence you have, the more motivated you will be. And when you have the motivation, you will accomplish more.
Your confidence level can come from 2 sources: Physically or from within
Sometimes, after you read some inspiring stories, it will motivate you and boost your confidence level. Sometimes some quotes can have the same impact on you.
It depends on your personal trigger. Some people feel driven after reading books. Some people feel fully charged after they talked to their mentors. While some people feel confident when they drive a sports car.
So take some time to discover what will give you the confident to achieve more. This is why you need to make it a habit to learn and to read more.
7. Spend Less Time on Things that Don’t Matter
How much time do you spend on things that don’t really matter? Such as watching television or surfing YouTube mindlessly just to have fun?
I’m not saying that you can’t watch TV or have fun with the games or internet. I’m saying that you should seriously cut down the time you WASTE on things that don’t really matter.
Some people said that they should watch the TV and relax while checking updates in Facebook after work. They said they deserve to enjoy after their work.
It is true that you can enjoy, but you have to remember that the moment you waste your time on things that don’t matter, you lost the moment on things that truly matter in your life.
Successful people are successful because they use their time wisely and spend most of their time working on their goals. They watch less TV and they spend less time on Facebook and YouTube (Unless they use Facebook or YouTube for work).
And one more thing, if you’re a heavy gamer and play with your phones all the time, it is time for you to seriously get rid of this bad habit.
Here’s the best quote from Bruce Lee to explain your usage of time…
“If you love life, don’t waste time, for time is what life is made up of.” – Bruce Lee
Related article that you may want to check out: 27 Simple Habits to Give Up If You Want To Succeed
8. Develop Positive Thinking Habit
This is a challenging and difficult task to achieve. You have been conditioned and think at a certain way for so many years, it will require a consistent effort to break the habit.
Negative thinking definitely is not going to help you in improving the quality of your life. Nobody wants to stay with negative people as well. So don’t be one.
You need to be conscious about what you are thinking from time to time if you want to get rid of the negative thoughts.
There’s a brilliant way to do this. Just put on a rubber band on your wrist. Whenever you see that rubber band, remind yourself that you want to think positively.
So whenever a negative thought emerge from your head, pull the rubber band and snap your hand! It hurts, I know, but it is a great way to remind yourself and to train you not to think negatively ever again.
Do this consistently for a couple of weeks. You have to make it a habit in order to break the pattern of your thought and to be conscious about positive thinking.
9. Cultivate Your Strength and Passion
Most people are trying to improve their weakness, that’s what we learned from school. However, if you want to be successful, you have to improve on your strength and make you the best.
Working on your weakness is not going to help you to become extraordinary, it will only make you someone… Normal.
When you focus your effort and zoom into just doing one thing or improve in one skill, you will become an expert in that area.
Look at Michael Jordan, he became one of the best basketball players not because he diversify his ability into all kind of sports, but he focus only in improving his basketball skill. This is what makes him the best.
You should do the same. Working with your strength will also give you the energy and motivation. Think about it, do you feel tired doing things that you don’t like or weak?
Or do you think you can do a better job at something that you are good with? The answer is obvious. You can only do a great job if it is something you are good in.
So find out your area of expertise and grow your strength. This is the only way to do great things.
10. Challenge Yourself with Something New
How often do you challenge yourself? Do you feel boring and directionless in life? Perhaps you need to challenge yourself and do something new.
It is said that if you keep doing what you do all the while, you will be getting the same old result like before.
So do something special and do something new. Can you imagine eating the same food everyday for a week? Don’t you feel bored with it? Thank God that we have a variety of foods to choose from.
Thus, inject newness into your life. Once in a while, visit places that you have never been before. Set it as a goal to travel to other country at least once a year. Try out new place to eat from time to time.
Do something that you never tried before. If you never been to the museum before, you might want to check it out. Try to look at things from a totally different angle.
When your life is filled with newness, you will feel the freshness and life will be exciting for you.
And this is surely one of the easiest and best ways to improve the quality of your life.
11. Create Your Exercise Routine
When is the last time you exercise and workout? If you can’t remember that, you need to make the decision to set it as your commitment to exercise now.
It is impossible to consistently take massive action if your health is in trouble. You want to be rich and ill both at the time? Or do you want to be rich and healthy?
Of course, we all want to have both money and be healthy. So don’t neglect this important area of your life.
You need to be productive to take action and produce results. And in order to be productive, you must constantly exercise every day.
Make it your routine to exercise at least 30 minutes a day. In fact, Robin Sharma, the success coach suggested to exercise twice a day to maintain our alertness and health level.
Starting from today onward, block your timetable for exercise. Make it your habit.
12. Grow your Connection with People You Care
How often do you spend time with people you truly care and you truly love?
Don’t wait until the time when you are successful but there’s nobody to celebrate together with you.
The best experience is to be able to share your success with others. Can you imagine reaching all your goals but you have no one to talk about your experience and no one to share your amazing result?
So grow and build your connection from now on. Spend some quality time with people you love and whom you care. Bring your soul mate for outing at least once a week. And spend quality with your family members as well. Don’t forget about your friends. Try to meet up once a month to maintain the relationship.
The advice above is just suggestion. You can follow your own way to connect with people you care about.
As long as you put in the effort to connect with them, you will be taking care of your relationship and network.
13. Master the Art to Happiness
Do you know that happiness is a choice? You can be happy whenever you choose to. How do you do it?
Just think, smile and laugh. Even if you have to fake it, fake as real as possible and it will become real to you.
Try to do this: Look at the ceiling above you and make a big silly grin. Try to think about all the sad moments in your life and see if you can create the sad emotion. Can you?
You cannot feel the sadness while your body and face are in a happy posture. This is why you can’t feel sad when you smile or laugh.
Of course, when you smile, you have to seriously smile and don’t just pretend it. When you do it seriously, your mood will change accordingly.
One of the keys that will affect your emotion is your motion. And apart from that, the way you appreciate things will affect your level of happiness as well.
When you are truly grateful for all the things that you have with you, you will feel a deep sense of satisfaction and happiness. When you don’t appreciate what you have, no matter how rich you are, you will never feel enough.
14. Manage Your Finances
If you want to improve yourself, you must also improve your finances. In fact, your finance will give a great impact on your life.
Money is not the most important thing in life, but it is important enough to help you to reach most of your goals that require money, such as travelling and living under a proper shelter.
You must learn to manage your finances. It does not matter how much income you make each month, the most important part is that you know how to manage it.
Managing your money does not require a college degree, everyone can do it.
It could be as simple as setting aside a portion of your monthly income to your investment account and saving account.
The challenging part is whether you can do this consistently and without breaking the rule. Most people set aside 10% of their income for investment, but after a few months down the road, they will break the rule and use the money for other purposes.
Create your own money management system today. Start small and it will grow big. If you think that you need to have big money only to manage it, you will never be rich.
Develop the habit to manage your money and only then it can grow bigger. Do it even if you have only $1 to manage.
15. Do Something Good Everyday
What I mean by doing something good can be as simple as a smile from you to a stranger you meet in the lift.
Give a helping hand to someone who is in need. When you have additional income, try to donate to someone who is in a dire situation.
Or even better, start from yourself. Each morning when you wake up, look into the mirror and smile. Tell yourself that it is a great day and something amazing is waiting for you.
When you expect something good, you usually will receive it.
Follow the teaching of the golden rule of life, “do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
If you want other people to smile and greet you, you have be the first person to do that. A simple smile and a simple ‘good morning’ can change someone’s mood. And of course, it will change your mood as well.
So do something good every day, regardless of how big or small it is. And it all starts with you.
16. Seriously Commit, Focus and Take Action
If you’re serious about achieving something, just decide and commit to it 100%. Say no to other options. Make it as a done deal. It is either you do it or you don’t.
So stay focus with your goals and take massive action every single day until you get the result you want.
Successful people are able to accomplish much more in their lives because they leave themselves no other options. They commit to their goals 100% and once they have decided to go for it, they will do whatever it takes. Giving up is not an option. Not have enough time is not an option. Failure is not an option.
You have to take it seriously if you are serious about achieving it. Don’t make excuses like you don’t know how to do it. If you don’t know how to do it, learn. If you don’t have enough time, sleep lesser or don’t sleep at all.
Never let yourself come up with lousy excuses that will prevent you from getting what you want out of your life.
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17. Stop, Take a Break and Reflect
Sometimes, you may want to stop, take a break and reflect on your life. Have you accomplish what you want? How are your performances? Are you going in the right direction? Are you living the life you want? Do you feel happy and satisfy?
There’s no point for you to keep pushing yourself to go forward and end up getting to a place that is not what you want.
Sometimes you just need to stop to reflect and review your life. However, don’t overdo it. When you spend too much time thinking, it means that you are not in action.
And without action, you will never get any result. So don’t think too much until it stops you from getting what you want.
Strike a balance. Take action and stop when needed.
18. Have the Attitude of Gratitude
The secret to wealth is to be grateful with what you have in life right now. If you’re not grateful, even if you have $100,000 in the bank, you won’t feel enough. However, if you’re grateful for everything you had, you will be happy and thankful when you have only $1,000 in the bank.
I’m not saying that you should not grow and achieve much more. All I’m saying is that regardless of how much you have today, you must learn to appreciate them.
It is the moment when you are grateful that you will feel a deep sense of peace and happiness within.
And when you’re grateful, you will be able to accomplish much more. Why? It is because there’s no stress and there’s no pressure. You’re free to tap into your potential and follow your heart to do what you want.
This is when success will come to you. So develop the attitude of gratitude. Try to be thankful for everything that you have.
19. Believe in Yourself and Your Dreams
Let’s put it simple, if you don’t believe in yourself that you can do it and your dreams are possible, nobody else would.
You see, it is only when you believe in something; you will actually go and do it. If you don’t believe that God exist, why do you bother praying?
If you don’t believe in your car braking system, you will never step into your car and drive. The same goes for what you want in your life. You must first believe in it and then believe that you can do it. And only then you will do something to make it come true.
You can’t achieve outstanding result if you’re half-hearted. Wright brothers believe that they can build a vehicle that can fly. And they did. It starts with a belief and to say that they can.
So do you believe that your dreams are possible? Do you believe that you can achieve them?
20. Give Something Back
Whatever you have learned, you must share and teach others. Whatever you have earned, you have to help and donate back to the society.
You come to this world with nothing and you can’t bring anything with you when you leave, except your legacy.
Therefore, give something back to the society. Leave a good legacy and leave a good deed. Help whenever possible and share whenever you can.
Albert Einstein, one of the greatest inventors of our time, said that the purpose that we live in this world is because of other people. We live to serve others. We live for other people.
Hence, spend some time to think about what legacy you want to leave to your children, your spouse, the society and the world.
Dare to dream big and dare to dream it now. You have to give yourself a reason to live each day.
21. Improve in These 6 Areas of Your Life
Personal development is about improving the quality of your life. And you can always start from these 6 areas:
Family and Home
Financial and Career
Spiritual and Ethical
Physical and health
Social and Cultural
Mental and Education
Set goals in these 6 areas of your life. Improve the quality in each area from time to time. Depending on your age, you may spend more time and work harder in your career and finance if you’re young.
However, your focus might change once you step into another age level. Older people tend to focus more into their health and their spirituality.
It is alright and you don’t have to be balance here. As long as you are working on to improve each area, it will be good enough for you.
There are tons and tons of tips that you can follow through here and from others. The most important thing is to seriously look into your life and decide that you want to improve it.
With the 21 personal development tips shared above, implement as much into your life. Adopt what works for you and change what don’t work for you.
There’s no rule saying that you must follow through any of the tips above. You have to create your own habit and your own system to improve. Not everything that works for me will work for you.
The more crucial part is that you must be putting effort to work on your life and moving toward your goals and dreams.
So do share with me what you think about these tips. Let me know your progress and share with me your thoughts.